It never gets easier. Sending them off for the holidays. 8 days. 8 of the longest days in the history of ever. Will Gwen get enough vegetarian food? Will Sean pee his pants every day? Will Katie fall into debilitating sadness? It never gets easier. Sending them off for the holidays. 8 days. 8 of the longest days in the history of ever. It was only supposed to be 4 according to the court paperwork but Jim gave in like he does. He gave her everything that she wanted to avoid th
On August 16, 2010 my wife of 6+ years left me 5 hours after I had been inseminated. I was DEVASTATED. I crumpled into the fetal position on the kitchen floor and didn’t move for 3 days. While I was down there I prayed in earnest for the first time in my life. Dear God, please give me someone who loves me for who I am
and give me my own family. Eventually that someone showed up.
He was a he.
He was in the Army.
He was getting divorced.
He had 3 kids.
Our lives were mess
I have been getting some profound messages a lot lately: It is not the first step you take, but the next step you take that gets you where you are going. The brick walls aren’t meant to make you give up, they are meant to make you realize how bad you want something. Whatever it takes, that is what we will do. Listen to your children. Advocacy is not always a simple or easy process. In the regular course of taking action, advocating for human dignity can mean that sometimes we
It is a compulsion.
The need to change the world for the better.
The impulse to improve the community for everyone. It thrums through the blood in my veins.
It resonates down deep into the tenor of my soul.
I have never not heard the siren song of the call for justice. And yet… I can advocate for others but advocating for myself is an entirely different story, especially in my capacity as a parent. I have been raising three children since Sean was 18
I remember the moment I found out he had children. It was night, I had been drinking and fucking around on Facebook. I thought I had found his Facebook page. His profile picture was of kelp so I wasn’t sure if it was him or not. It said he was married. I clicked on her page and there was a little boy maybe 6 months old on the beach wearing an Army hat. The next photo was of him with her at a wedding. I completely freaked out. I wasn’t freaked out that he was married. I wasn’t