Grace is the revolution Grace is stepping into the unknown Grace is willingness to fail Grace is being open to hearing how you have hurt others and changing your response to life instead of using defensiveness to cope Grace is knowing that something bigger than you is giving you strength Grace is knowing you have no control and being ok with that knowing Grace is the silence between the hard conversations Grace is the light in the darkest hour Grace is total surrender Grace i
I desire a world where women have choice. I desire a world where women are safe to tell people in power their desires. I desire a world where women are able to be a voice for those who don’t have one. I desire a world where women can be free to do whatever they want with no judgment. I desire a world where women can write and express their truth on their own terms. I desire a world where women set politeness aside to talk politics and religion ALL THE TIME. I desire a world w
I feel greedy.
I feel covetous.
I feel hungry. I desire equality.
I desire change.
I desire collaboration. I feel passionate.
I feel fury.
I feel obsessive. I crave a voice.
I crave a choice.
I crave acknowledgement. I do not want women to be hung for their decisions like this man does.
I do not want people who don’t believe in family planning to be in charge of its national distribution like this woman does.
I do not want us to be silent, to be blind, to believe th
Last week I had 2 different people say nice things to me within the span of 30 minutes. One friend texted me to say, “so fucking proud of you”. The other friend texted that I was his, “friend warrior queen”. The joy I felt in that moment was so GIANT in my heart that it carried me the rest of the day. I started thinking…are we so wrapped up in telling women that they are wrong that we forget to tell women that they are valued? Clearly the answer is yes. Today I offer you 5 di
I was so blessed and honored to speak at the Corvallis Women’s March today in Corvallis, Oregon. The organizers SLAYED the event! Here is a video of my speech along with the transcript so you can follow my words! Have a kick ass weekend y’all!
Cheers, Dr. Bird Dr. Melissa Bird speech 1/20/18: A day ago, a week ago, a month ago, a year ago I was wracked with an anger so deep, so large, so righteous in its fury it made my body shudder with its power and made my stomach heave a
When we engage in advocacy and speak our truth, sometimes we hit a major roadblock. Mine is my “good girl”. She is an expert at saying, “shhhhhh, be quiet, sit down and shut up before someone sees you.” Feeding into this mindset can stop us from taking action. When women engage in advocacy and speak our truth, sometimes we are told we are wrong and women really hate being told we are wrong. Feeding into this mindset can stop us from taking action. Pitting women against other
I am deeply committed to working for justice in an authentic and charitable way. This means I am going to fuck shit up a lot in the eyes of other people. If speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have, why do I feel like lately my truth isn’t good enough? If it is important for women not to support each other and not play mean girls on the playground, why do I feel like I am taking the punches for saying how I feel in an authentic and intentional way? When I was get
The patriarchy manifests itself as a shitty list of shoulds…as uncertainty with our partners when we speak our truth. It tells us to be quiet…to stop taking up space. The patriarchy says demure…be quiet…HUSHHHHHHHHH.
Don’t yell…smile. Don’t question what is happening…nothing is wrong. I am guessing that like me, you have been getting a whole lotta emails about resolutions, looking back at 2017, and goal setting for 2018. For the last three weeks I have been thinking about si
12/12/17 was a historic day in Portland, Oregon. I got to meet one of my heroes Hillary Clinton…again. I met her 10 years ago during her first run for President and a few times since, but this time I got to talk to her and it was AWESOME! These are the top 10 things I learned from Hillary on Tuesday night: There is too much at stake for ANY of us to sit on the sidelines The only way we will get sexism out of politics is to get more women into politics You can’t win if you don
10. Built a BOMB ASS following online! That has led to connections with:
Kick Ass Academics
Glorious politicians 9. Pursued and obtained a PhD! I had mediocre grades, nearly failed statistics, and was told that my work was irrelevant. 8. Gone to a therapist! I was going through post-divorce insanity back in 2010. Going to therapy meant that I had to look at my own failings and it also got me to start praying to something bigger than
Last night I broke my cardinal rule. I picked a fight with a total stranger on Facebook. It made me cry all night and all morning. It took me all the way until this afternoon to gather my wits and apologize publicly, which I did. Yes, the impenetrable Dr. Bird has a heart and cries…a lot.
She also has the grace and wisdom to know when she is being combative. In order to process this I called all of my posse. I needed wisdom from my best girls. My conversation with my friend
My husband is a veteran. He and I are gun owning Democrats who believe deeply in American government. We attend church with our kids on most Sundays and he is using his GI Bill to finish his college education. I did what my grandparents taught me to do and worked hard to get where I am today. We always pay our taxes. I was raised in Utah surrounded by true conservatives. Conservatives who do not believe in being bullies and beating up on queers and women. They believed in fis
I am grateful for activists. I receive lots of really incredible emails on a pretty regular basis. This week I received some remarkable messages that I think are pretty great. One was from a student of mine who read the chapter about “substance use” in our textbook and took exception with the language used. He emailed the authors of the textbook and got this response: “The textbook publisher emailed me a proof of the next edition’s chapter on addiction asking me to look it ov
I have a tattoo on my back that says “forward out of darkness, forward into light”. I got it after Utah state legislator LaVar Christensen killed the first bill I ever wrote in 2004. It is part of the motto the suffragettes sewed on their banners when they marched for the 19th Amendment. National Woman’s Party collection My tattoo reminds me that oftentimes, especially when it comes to policy, things don’t often come easily but with persistence they do come. Let me say that a
Ohhhh y’all, 2017 is proving to be the year that the women stopped giving all the fucks. This weeks elections turned out to be a real doosey and proved the #resistance is alive and well, and it has NOTHING to do with old white guys and the status quo. Let’s just talk about this for one second…the brogressives (and even some women) think that we need to be focusing on white men to win elections for the Democrats. Hell some of those folks even think that we need to be courting
This week @JW4Hillary posted on Twitter that Hillary Clinton was, “guilty of writing while female”. The Internets have BLOWN UP because a WOMAN has written a book about her experience running for President. The BROS have their knickers in a twist and I am mad as hell about it. All this bitching about Hillary Clinton telling her story means it is time to get down to brass tacks. Enough is enough. It is time to infiltrate.
It is time to write.
It is time to run.
It is time t
Like many of you who use social media, my friend Briana and I connected on Facebook during the 2016 election season when a mutual friend formed a “secret” Facebook group as a safe space for us to talk about our experiences. Although we have never met in person, Briana and I formed a deep bond based on our mutual love of advocacy, politics, and women’s empowerment. Photo by society6.com on Pinterest Marginalized No More is not just another training program. This is our way of
“Woman has to understand her role. Her role is not to worship god; Her role is to be the very self of God. Her oneness can affect and open every heart.” -Yogi Bhajan Women. Tears. Overwhelm. Them. Us. Together. Labia everywhere. Women with their lovers, their friends, their grandfathers. Women with their babies, their grown children. Women everywhere. Women holding and loving each other. Women hugging and saying thank you, I see you, I honor you. Women saying I am here to com